Friday, February 1, 2013

Mary's Place



Neighbor Martin, playing under the mango tree

Last Saturday I found myself powering down the red sandy road, my brown satchel full of all the necessary supplies—toilet paper, water, sunscreen, Cliff bar, hand sanitizer, garden tools.  I did not want to be found lacking anything for my first solo workday at Okari church.  Since Melissa has gone back to the states, I have been the sole kawaja in the congregation.  The churches here in Mundri have church workdays on a regular basis, in which members of the congregation meet to weed, plant, harvest, pick, build, or do any other kind of outdoor labor one could possibly imagine.  This particular Saturday, Okari church would be making bricks that would be used on a church office.  I was overjoyed to have a chance to hang out with people in the community, while enjoying the peaceful monotony of molding chunks of mud into rectangular blocks one after the other.  On top of that, I’ve been feeling the need to pull more of my weight, show that I can be a valued member of the community, for a reason other than the color of my skin.  I couldn’t wait to get to church and prove that I could earn my stay.    
Shortly before reaching church, I rode by my friend Mary’s compound, looking at her tukul door to see if she was up for the day.  I was happy to see that her door was open, and I found her hovering over the fire, stoking it with pieces of coal.  “Awadiya!  Salaam miro!” I greeted, riding up the hill into the open center of her compound.  “Jonnifa! Kef?”  She was glad to have a surprise visit at the start of her day.  As I parked my bike under the shade of a mango tree, I explained how excited I was to help make bricks at church.  She then informed me that (as usual) I had gotten the dates wrong, and the event that I had so eagerly planned for was not happening this morning. 
This is the regular routine in Africa—plan for an event and then wait and wait until you find out that it really isn’t going to happen.  The lack of structure and the unpredictability I’ve faced in church-led events has been cause of frustration.  However, this day, the Holy Spirit was good to keep me content, and I decided I would spend my day with my friend.
She pulled over for me a plastic chair, the nice one used for guests, and started to prepare some tea for me.  African tea is amazing—the women put in fresh herbs and lots of sugar and serve it scalding hot.  This day, Mary made me some lemongrass tea, moving the teapot with her bare hands to make sure it was over the hottest coals.  She had made these coals from wood on her own compound.  When she is stretched financially and cannot afford to purchase things from the market she must make do with the resources around her home and garden.  As Mary went off into the grass to bathe, I was stuck with the unfortunate task of watching over the tea.  Before long, it started to boil over, and I frantically grabbed some tissues from my purse to use for gripping the pot.  They didn’t work so well, and I abruptly set the burning teapot on the ground.  Mary (and an onlooking neighbor girl) laughed as I attempted to place the teapot back into a better spot on the fire.  More tea just spilled out as the pot tilted against the coals.  Luckily for me, the Moru people are gracious towards the kawaja women like me who still have “man hands.” (In Moru culture, the women do all the tough labor, so the people with weak hands are said to have “man hands.”)
Mary and I enjoyed catching up over some mandazi (fried dough) and lemongrass tea.  We talked about the previous week, travel plans, people’s health, and the current weather, switching back and forth between Arabic and English at random times.  She has always been good to let me spit out my broken Arabic phrases, restating them in the correct way when I get them wrong.  It is a blessing to live in a culture that appreciates any sort of attempt at speaking the native language.  There’s no judgment, no condescension, when I fail to get the words right.  There may be some laughter—but humor and humility are necessary when learning a new language. 
As the day went on, Mary was ready for a little more English practice, so we sat on a mat of reeds under the mango tree and read from the Jesus Storybook Bible.  This book, with its succinct narration and vivid pictures, is extremely popular here in Mundri.  The team gave out one for each primary school this past year at teacher training. (Thank you, Liberti church in Philly!) I’m hoping to give out more in the future.  We read the story of Rachel and Leah, entitled, “The Girl No One Wanted.” The story focuses on how God uses the seemingly unaffecting, awkward people to help make His kingdom come. It was encouraging to read, as I live and work in a foreign country, unsure of how I’m really helping my Moru friends, unsure of what the future holds for me.


While we were reading, a woman and her three children came by to get some medicine.  Mary is the official neighborhood dispensary.  Sick people come to her to prescribe the appropriate dosage and give it for a limited fee.  This time, the children and mother were visiting for a simple antihistamine, which Mary gave by crushing up and putting into milk, which was forced into the children’s mouths.  I looked through the Jesus Storybook Bible with the oldest girl, pointing out things she might recognize and describing them in Arabic.  She was mesmerized. 
I left Mary’s compound completely satisfied with the day the Lord had given me.  It wasn’t what I had planned, and I didn’t get to “earn my keep” by working in the churchyard.  However, I was reminded how this day, just like every day spent in S. Sudan, the Lord is giving me the desires of my heart.  I got to ride my bike down a familiar African road, watching the sun streak through the clouds that seem to stretch out into eternity.  I got to speak English and native tongue to someone vastly different than myself, and still feel a heart connection.  I got to talk about America, explaining that, although life there seems much happier, it is merely “different.”  I spent a day in the reality of things I only dreamt about long ago.  And I needn’t worry about all my good works--- Jesus has already earned my keep for me.    

With Mary (Awadiya) at Okari church on Christmas

Delight yourself in the Lord and He will give you the desires of your heart.


-Psalm 37:4




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